I was on the phone having a pity party with a girlfriend. I had been laid up with a sore foot for over a week. The drastic change in my routine had finally gotten to me. I hadn't been able to workout in days.
She was in the same frame of mind. The house her husband left her with when he walked out years ago was falling apart. She was having trouble keeping up. She needed a new man in her life.
She was in the same frame of mind. The house her husband left her with when he walked out years ago was falling apart. She was having trouble keeping up. She needed a new man in her life.
I listened to her complain, and she sympathized with me.
"You should watch Oprah today, it's going to be a good one," she said, changing the subject.
"What's it on?" I asked.
"Sex appeal." she replied.
"Sounds depressing, how be you watch it and tell me all about it."
Minutes later the phone rang.
"It's me."
"Let me guess; it's all about blondes and big boobs."
"Worse. It's awful. The experts say sex appeal is all about scent. They say men are instinctively attracted to the scent of a woman while she's ovulating." My friend, who's in her fifties, found this revelation to be very depressing.
"Well I'm good for a few years," I joked "but that really sucks for you."
We both laughed, until we cried.
I checked out the highlights of the Oprah show on Internet. My friend was right. Experts said that men are attracted to the scent of a woman when she's ovulating; it's all related to the fact they are looking to mate. They said women while ovulating have a healthier glow about them. They said even the pitch of a woman's voice at this time in their cycle was more appealing to men.
Experts or not, I'm not buying it. Talk to any of my single friends who are in the dating game for the second time around. They say men seem to be pretty much interested in the same things they were always interested in.
A friend recently told me I'd be shocked at the pick-up lines she hears now.
She was at a bar when a guy came up to her and said very matter of factly,
"I had to come over and tell you, you have beautiful breasts."
How do you respond to a comment like that? Whatever happened to "What's your name?" or "Come here often?"
Regardless, this guy was obviously not drawn to her because of her scent'. Let's not kid ourselves, the dating game may have changed, but men haven't. They're attracted to what they've always been attracted to.
My husband and I were in the car the other day and he stopped at a red light. There was a scantily clad girl walking down the street. Keep in mind she was clearly not within smelling distance'.
The light turned green and we were still sitting there. I turned to see my husband focused on the girl. I nudged him and said "The light's green."
We sat there a couple seconds longer.
"Hello, I'm in the car with you, move it!"
No, men haven't changed but apparently women haven't either. Men often accuse women of being gold diggers and in a way there's something to that.
Experts did a test with women, giving them pictures of three different men and asked them to rate their appeal on a scale of one to ten. Then they added a corresponding income to the faces. The women's rating of the men changed according to their earnings. They concluded when a man makes a lot of money, a woman will rate him higher on the attractiveness scale than she would that same man with a smaller income. They said it went back to evolution. Women looked for men who had the best social status, who would be the best hunters, and could provide for them and their babies.
So what does it all mean? If we now know men are attracted by scent does that mean women will stop spending enormous amounts of money on hair dye, Botox, implants and makeup? Of course not, because women want to feel desirable at any age. That's why you see eighty- year old women wearing lipstick.
Are men going to stop caring about their looks and just start carrying their bank-book and stock portfolio with them at all times? Not likely. They'll continue to suck in their gut, comb over their hair, and purchase Viagra and anything else they think will make themselves more appealing to women.
Whoever coined the expression beauty is only skin deep' was right, but I don't think many people are buying it. What they are buying is Botox, implants, hair extensions and liposuction.
Myself? I've always been a fan of the expression beauty is in the eye of the beholder,' because quite simply it means that everyone has a fair chance at finding love.
"You should watch Oprah today, it's going to be a good one," she said, changing the subject.
"What's it on?" I asked.
"Sex appeal." she replied.
"Sounds depressing, how be you watch it and tell me all about it."
Minutes later the phone rang.
"It's me."
"Let me guess; it's all about blondes and big boobs."
"Worse. It's awful. The experts say sex appeal is all about scent. They say men are instinctively attracted to the scent of a woman while she's ovulating." My friend, who's in her fifties, found this revelation to be very depressing.
"Well I'm good for a few years," I joked "but that really sucks for you."
We both laughed, until we cried.
I checked out the highlights of the Oprah show on Internet. My friend was right. Experts said that men are attracted to the scent of a woman when she's ovulating; it's all related to the fact they are looking to mate. They said women while ovulating have a healthier glow about them. They said even the pitch of a woman's voice at this time in their cycle was more appealing to men.
Experts or not, I'm not buying it. Talk to any of my single friends who are in the dating game for the second time around. They say men seem to be pretty much interested in the same things they were always interested in.
A friend recently told me I'd be shocked at the pick-up lines she hears now.
She was at a bar when a guy came up to her and said very matter of factly,
"I had to come over and tell you, you have beautiful breasts."
How do you respond to a comment like that? Whatever happened to "What's your name?" or "Come here often?"
Regardless, this guy was obviously not drawn to her because of her scent'. Let's not kid ourselves, the dating game may have changed, but men haven't. They're attracted to what they've always been attracted to.
My husband and I were in the car the other day and he stopped at a red light. There was a scantily clad girl walking down the street. Keep in mind she was clearly not within smelling distance'.
The light turned green and we were still sitting there. I turned to see my husband focused on the girl. I nudged him and said "The light's green."
We sat there a couple seconds longer.
"Hello, I'm in the car with you, move it!"
No, men haven't changed but apparently women haven't either. Men often accuse women of being gold diggers and in a way there's something to that.
Experts did a test with women, giving them pictures of three different men and asked them to rate their appeal on a scale of one to ten. Then they added a corresponding income to the faces. The women's rating of the men changed according to their earnings. They concluded when a man makes a lot of money, a woman will rate him higher on the attractiveness scale than she would that same man with a smaller income. They said it went back to evolution. Women looked for men who had the best social status, who would be the best hunters, and could provide for them and their babies.
So what does it all mean? If we now know men are attracted by scent does that mean women will stop spending enormous amounts of money on hair dye, Botox, implants and makeup? Of course not, because women want to feel desirable at any age. That's why you see eighty- year old women wearing lipstick.
Are men going to stop caring about their looks and just start carrying their bank-book and stock portfolio with them at all times? Not likely. They'll continue to suck in their gut, comb over their hair, and purchase Viagra and anything else they think will make themselves more appealing to women.
Whoever coined the expression beauty is only skin deep' was right, but I don't think many people are buying it. What they are buying is Botox, implants, hair extensions and liposuction.
Myself? I've always been a fan of the expression beauty is in the eye of the beholder,' because quite simply it means that everyone has a fair chance at finding love.
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