Are you involved in a long distance relationship and looking for a way to increase intimacy between you and your partner. Do you need a catalyst to conversation and romance? If so fate has brought you exactly where you were intended to be. I have the solution to your dilemma. For optimum enjoyment I suggest a camera equipped laptop, high-speed internet, skype or some other visual conferencing software, and some comfort in the kitchen. Next you invite you partner for a dinner date. You set up a conference and together you cook your meal. The same meal…decide together what the menu shall be and agree on ingredients but… I have gotten ahead of myself, first let us begin with your preparation…that is after she says yes.
If your date is on a work night check your fridge at home and email the needed ingredients to your office. Create a list at the office…do not print as this is not work related information =0)~. On your way home ensure you pick up the needed ingredients. Shower before you date, even an online date, you should be playing mood music, shaving, a touch of cologne. Have a snack to ensure you are not hungry while cooking. It is about feeling comfortable doing your date, being in a state that allows you to connect. By this time in your life you need to know how to get yourself in that space, for me it is about scents, sounds, things that bring forth the observer within me…things that make me present. Whatever it is for you…do that. You want to have a wonderful date.
Once you are in the attire you have chosen…the style that feels the most you…you need to go clean the kitchen. I say get dressed then clean the kitchen because this will let you know if you chose the right attire. If you can't clean the kitchen in it you can't cook in it. You do not want to look like you are worried about messing up your clothes while you are cooking. That is not a good look…so if you can clean the kitchen in it you will be fine. Next give her a call…Skype is a great service for this part. Once she is on you can talk for a while and get the computers set up so there is a good view of the kitchens and you can talk comfortably. Then you began cooking together…drinkers…I would introduce a nice moscato at this point.
After preparing the meal you can sit eat together and talk. After dinner you can retire to the living room or relax at the kitchen table. This is a good time for a glass of wine and you could log onto a game service like pogo or yahoo messenger and play a quick game of dominoes, scrabble (literati), backgammon, or whatever tickles your fancy. Playful interaction and assistance is the goal of the game here…at least I have to remind myself of that…each couple will be different but try to make this a bonding experience.
Once you are in the attire you have chosen…the style that feels the most you…you need to go clean the kitchen. I say get dressed then clean the kitchen because this will let you know if you chose the right attire. If you can't clean the kitchen in it you can't cook in it. You do not want to look like you are worried about messing up your clothes while you are cooking. That is not a good look…so if you can clean the kitchen in it you will be fine. Next give her a call…Skype is a great service for this part. Once she is on you can talk for a while and get the computers set up so there is a good view of the kitchens and you can talk comfortably. Then you began cooking together…drinkers…I would introduce a nice moscato at this point.
After preparing the meal you can sit eat together and talk. After dinner you can retire to the living room or relax at the kitchen table. This is a good time for a glass of wine and you could log onto a game service like pogo or yahoo messenger and play a quick game of dominoes, scrabble (literati), backgammon, or whatever tickles your fancy. Playful interaction and assistance is the goal of the game here…at least I have to remind myself of that…each couple will be different but try to make this a bonding experience.
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